Pain In Our Homes...

By Kerwin De Matas

It's incredible that one is never too old to learn new things. There was a conversation that my friends and I were having, and it was about domestic violence. I always knew domestic violence, as one family member, beating up on another family member, in a very brutal way. It got quite interesting though, when I did some research in Wikipedia and found out about the different types of domestic violence. The information was a total surprise for me, especially when I have seen all those things before, and never knew that they were illegal.

A Serious Ill In Society...

So we all know that domestic violence, intimate partner violence (IPV)is when there is brutal physical contact between a man and a woman in the same house hold, and that it is illegal, correct? But did everyone know that, apart from physical abuse and murder, domestic violence can also be, intimidating some one, rape ( when there is no consent, even if married, or dating ), not permitting a partner against his/her will to see other family members, friends etc, verbal threats, verbal violence, violent gestures, like raising the hands for example, as if to lash out.

Only The Actions Are Hurtful!

These, more or less are the major points, listed as domestic abuse. What do you think about that? These are actions, I am very sure that most of us saw on a daily basis, but never took it upon ourselves to report them, because we never knew, never cared, or in some countries, these actions do not count as a crime. Definitely, interest needs to be put into these cases, because in the long run, most of the kids in these affected families, end up in violent relationships, as well as doing the same things when they themselves get older.

Men Are Also Victims

Society really needs to be educated on domestic violence, because like I said, most of us never knew. How many people affected by this illness, go through life with low self esteem, pshycologically affected, sometimes, mentally......But educating on this subject is not enough, if the laws don't condemn perpetrators, men, and women alike, for making life a living hell for the other, then we wouldn't get any where.

This Is Illegal!!

I would really suggest for anyone wanting to know more on this subject, to go to my " ' excellent ' Education Links ", look for the Wikipedia, and try educating your self on domestic violence. This problem is becoming really severe now, and we need to learn how to recognize it, just in case sometimes we might be doing the same things, but never knew, or we chose to ignore. Let's get our acts together, and treat our families in the best way, as they deserve.